Not looking forward to tonight.
 

My grandmother passed away yesterday and the viewing is tonight, that seems really fast but most of the family lives in other states so they're probably in a hurry to get back home. The family had a bit of a falling out when I was younger and its been 20yrs or so since I've talked to most of them, I've managed to luck out and have only ran in to one of them while I was visiting my grandmother on thanksgiving. I guess my problem with this is that I've never been comfortable talking to people I haven't seen in a long time because I never really know what to talk about or they want to ask me questions that are non of there business , I'm much more comfortable talking to a complete stranger at a tractor show. My other issue is that everybody is going to want to hug me and I absolutely hate that, I don't really like people touching me other than a handshake. I just wish I could go pay my respects without all the b.s and drama.

Sorry to hear about your loss. Please accept my condolences. :Pray:

Sorry to hear about your grandmother. Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

Tim-
Sorry for your loss. You and I sound a lot alike. Hate the hugs.

Sorry to hear that Tim. FWIW it's good to try to focus on the good times and memories with her rather than the bs and drama but it's an uncomfortable situation none the less when there's family tension. I hope things go as ok as they can for you.

Sorry to hear about your loss, I just lost my grandmother the weekend before thanksgiving. Opposite to your situation, we aren't having the memorial and burial until this Saturday. It seems like such a long time, but it's so family from far and wide could arrange to come. Thoughts and prayers are with you.

So sorry for your loss! What I would do, if you don't care about ruffling people's feathers and since you don't really have any contact with all of them is go pay your respects, visit with the ones you know and go. That's what I'd do. I'm not much of a touchy-feely person myself. What matters is you loved and cared for your grandma and went and paid your respects. What others think is their problem. People going to think what they want anyways. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers!

First off my condolences on your Gr mothers passing.
Second:
It is proven that hugging is healing process and it stimulates ones body to relax and calming in a stressful situation.
Most people that hug are wishing you well and promoting your wellness, look @ it that way and say thank you, they mean you well.
When I was younger I didn't like hugging either, then I learned.
@ my age, I go to a lot more funerals than weddings.
My prayers @ a time like this, and a guy hug for you, it helps.

Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers :Pray:

Sorry for your loss, Tim. I don't do well at funerals/viewings, I'm usually in and out quickly.

My sympathies, both to you Tim and to Ian.

Sorry for your loss Tim. My grandmother is 98 so I could be in the same boat as you soon.
I know the feeling about talking to people you should be able to but can't.

Sorry to hear about your Grandmother's passing. Please accept my sincere condolences.

Hope it goes well for you at the viewing.

Jeff

It's never easy to say good-bye. You loved your grandma and that is a simple, earnest feeling. Don't let ANYONE keep you from doing what you want or need to do! In other words, don't stay away because what might be an awkward situation or a personal hug. 'ole George is right about a hug can be a healing touch and who knows what person or persons YOU will be healing!! The Lord works in mysterious ways and the person outside of the church doors is doing more of His work than the person inside the church doors. You never know how these things just might work out....

Saturday, I was giving the opportunity to speak at a funeral of a teenager who named me as one of her favorite people. It was hard to choke back the tears of someone so young who had passed and thought kindly of me and I didn't know what words to say in those difficult times, but I was honored to do so and after reflecting on her life the words came out. I hope that my words gave some ease to her mom's soul and those present.......we never know, but there is a purpose why you are where you need to be at any time. When life gives you more than you can stand......try kneeling.

I'm glad that you had a chance to know your grandma. My condolences during your loss at this time.

Cub Cadet 123

My sympathies Tim. Do what you need to do. It's one day out of thousands.

Sorry for your loss Tim. I will keep your family in my prayers.

thanks guys.

Sorry for your loss, I will keep you and your family, in my prayers.

Sorry to hear about your loss! I cant do funerals! My old man died when I was 14 and from the stress of losing my best friend and the man I respected the most in the world I passed out cold at the funeral. I met aunts and uncles that lived less than an hour away from me the whole time I was growing up because of a falling out from before I was born.
I have been to only 2 others since then, my grandmothers and my step fathers. I know enough to stay as close to the door as possible as I start to feel like I am gonna lose control I sneak out the back for a smoke(or 10) please except my sincerest appologies and wish you and yours many happy, healthy years.

My deepest sympathy to you and your family Tim.
I HATE the touchy feely thing as well. Especially those women that have a half gallon of stink juice on, and they feel the need they have to hug me... And sitting in the chair they always hug me around the head, and rub that stuff all over my face...:angry: (perfume:biggrin2:)
Sorry I can't help you and give you some good advive Tim, but just do your best and like everything else, it to shall pass and just be a memory.

Sorry for your loss Tim.

Sorry for your loss Tim.

Sorry Olds. May your GM rest in peace!

Tim so sorry to hear about your Grams.

Thanks guys, the funeral was this morning and now I'm just killing time before the dinner. It's nice to be out of my suit and into some normal clothes, I can't believe what some people showed up wearing.:bigeyes:

Yeah Tim I'm not a suit guy! Lol last one I wore was a tux to my wedding! Lol it always amazes me the people at those dinners, your like who are you and where did you come from? Think some just show up for a free meal! I've seen some outfits too I wouldn't wear for a Halloween contest! We went to a funeral couple years ago and the minister was giving the eulogy, someone in front of us was playing a game on their cell phone!!! A grown man! Wth???